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Feb 15, 2021

My wife Melanie and I are celebrating 20-years of marriage this week (Feb 17th). WOW. Little did I think when I was checking out the attractive step-aerobics instructor in the late ’90s when I was in graduate school, that she would eventually become my wife. 


Today, Melanie is my special guest on the IMPACT Show as we share our Top 10 lessons from 20-years of marriage. I asked Melanie to pick her Top 5 lessons, and I have my Top 5 lessons. The best part is that we did NOT reveal our lessons to each other before the show.


After 20-years of marriage and having 3-kids, I can say we are now more in sync and in-love with each other than ever. But it hasn’t always been that way, and we even share some of our more challenging times as well in today’s episode. Furthermore, we share what got us through the tough times when we haven’t been on the same page.


Enjoy this fun episode, as it’s always good to have my better half on the Show revealing all my bad habits and secrets. I believe today’s episode will help you laugh, learn, and love today more than usual, and it will put a huge smile on your face.


Additionally, if you enjoy today’s Q&A episode, please share it with your community and on your social media. Please be sure to tag Melanie and me so we can reciprocate some love! 


IG/Twitter: @ToddDurkin @melanie.durkin





More on the episode:

2:00 - Our Journey and The Dates That Matter 

8:50 - Melanie shares her 1st lesson #1 DON’T QUIT.

10:02 - Todd shares his 1st lesson #2 Best Communication happens when driving and working out.

11:29 - Lesson #3 from Melanie: Be in Sync, Spiritually, Socially, and Emotionally.

13:55 - Lesson #4 from Todd: The 5 Love Languages & understanding your spouse’s “love language.”

17:08- Lesson #5 from Melanie: Take Care of Yourself So You Can Take Care of Others.

18:29 - Lesson #6 from Todd: Understanding What Makes Melanie Happy.

21:22 - Lesson #7 from Melanie: The Golden Rule - DON’T KEEP SCORE.

23:59 - Lesson #8 from Todd: Happy Wife… Happy Life!

26:35 - Lesson #9 from Melanie: Drop It and Move On. Don’t go to bed angry.

31:00 - Lesson #10 from Todd: Faith is the Glue that Holds us Together.

35:11  - Final words and favorite memories in the past 20 years.




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Todd Durkin is one of the leading coaches, trainers, and motivators in the world. It’s no secret why some of the world’s top athletes have trained with him for nearly two decades. He’s a best-selling author, a motivational speaker, and owns the legendary Fitness Quest 10 in San Diego, CA, where he leads an amazing team of 42 teammates.


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