Feb 16, 2026
This week is incredibly special. My wife Melanie and I are
celebrating 25 years of marriage.
WOW! Twenty-five years since February 17, 2001… and 28 years since
I first walked into that
graduate teaching assistant meeting at San Diego State University
and saw the most beautiful
blonde woman with the brightest smile in the room. Little did I
know…that woman would
become my wife.
In this episode, we take you live to Whitefish, Montana, from
our Annual Retreat, where Kelli
Watson interviews Melanie and me on stage about marriage, faith,
parenting, business, hard
seasons, deep loss, big dreams, and what it really takes to stay
committed for the long haul. I’d
like to share part of that interview with you as we received great
feedback on it.
This one is vulnerable. We talk about the wins, some losses,
some wounds, and even some of
the arguments. Haha. We talk about relationships, growth, the kids,
the calling, and how love
looks different 25 years later. If you’re married, want to be
married, leading a family, building a
business, or walking through a tough season—this episode is for
you. Check it out…
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- How our definition of love evolved from “what can I get?” to “how can I serve?”
- The best marriage advice we ever received.
- How to navigate tough seasons with a short memory and thick skin.
- What raising three athletes taught us about teamwork at home.
- How faith became the foundation that carried us through tragedy.
- Why second chances and redemption stories matter so deeply to us.
- The power of walks, car rides, and intentional conversation in staying connected.
- How to balance personal ambition with shared family goals.
- What it means to “divide and conquer” in certain seasons of life.
- Why your spouse’s spirit matters more over time than physical attraction.
- The conversations that shaped us as young parents—and the ones shaping us now.
- What legacy truly means and how we want to be remembered.
- What do the next 25-years look like?! Haha.
Here are Some of the Interview Questions from Kelli Watson: Todd & Melanie Durkin – 25 Years of Marriage
- Looking back on 25 years together, what’s one thing that has
surprised you most
about marriage? - Every couple goes through seasons—busy, calm, and sometimes
stormy. What
practices or habits have helped you stay connected through the different seasons
of life? - You’ve both supported each other through major career
milestones and raising a
family. How have you balanced personal dreams with shared goals? - What does partnership mean to you now, compared to when you first got married?
- How do you handle disagreements or tough conversations?
- Over the years, what small, consistent actions have had the
biggest impact on
keeping your relationship strong? - You’ve both spoken about faith and purpose. How has your faith
influenced your
marriage and the way you lead as a couple? - If your younger selves could sit in the audience today, what
advice would you give
them about love, communication, and commitment? - How has your definition of love changed from year one to year twenty-five?
- And finally, what’s next for the two of you--as a couple, as
parents, and as
partners in life and impact?
We’ve done a lot in 25-years. We walked through tragedy. We’ve
built businesses. We’ve raisedthree incredible kids. We’ve sold a
company. We’re launching another. We’ve grown in faith. We’ve
wrestled through conflict. And we’ve learned that love deepens when
you serve, not when you keep score.
I have fallen more in love with Melanie’s spirit today than I did
even 25 years ago. Her faith. Her
discipline. Her heart for serving others through the Durkin Impact
Foundation. Her mothering our 3-kids. I’m more convinced than ever
that when your marriage is rooted in faith, purpose, love, and
understanding, and good communication, it can weather anything.
If this episode touched you, challenged you, or encouraged
you—please like it, share it, and
follow the show. Send it to someone who needs hope in their
marriage or encouragement in
their family. Let’s keep building strong families, strong faith,
and strong legacies together.
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